Healthy Relationship Tips: Healthy relationships are the part of a successful life. When your relationships are at a stake, you can’t focus effectively on other areas of your life such as studies, career, work, and your own personality. Therefore, healthy relationships are considered associated with positive adjustment and psychological well-being.
When your relationship is suffering, you always have a choice i.e., put it out of its misery or nurse it back to health. If the love that you share is worth saving, act quickly to reverse and repair the damage that’s already been done to your relationship. Here are some areas to notice when you try to save a broken relationship.
Seek first to understand, then be understood. When you put yourself in shoes of others, you are better able to analyze the situation rationally and understand other’s feelings.
Express yourself. There is no harm in expressing your feelings either positive or negative. But when you express negative feelings, what matters is: how you express it. If you try to blame another person, show aggression and use harsh tone then definitely, the next person is not going to listen to you and all your energy and efforts will go in vein. So be careful about your words, tone of voice, and the situation when you express your negative feelings. However, when you express your positive feelings, try to harmonize your body language. Your words and body language should give a similar message. For instance, you are encouraging the person, but your way of saying it is sarcastic. Off course, this will not give a positive message, instead, the person in front of you will get offended by your act. So, express yourself but tactfully.
Healthy adjustment. When you adjust a broken relationship, it is not a compromise, but it is a healthy option which is only chosen by a healthy mind. If you consider your mind a strong and healthy one, always chose to adjust with relationship problems at first.
Soften your heart. You always like people who are soft-hearted. So why not you choose to be the liked one by your loved ones?
Assume the best. Every relationship goes through thick and thins. Problems are the part of every relationship but you need to understand that problems are temporary and there is a solution to every problem. Once you solve the current issues, your relationship will be just like you wished it to be.
Embrace change. Always welcome change in your relationship. Some people feel so fixed within a relationship that even a minor change is so frustrating for them. If you are one of those, you need to understand that change is the part of life stages. Everyone changes with age and according to the life situation. So if this is the normal process so you can feel normal about it.
Be persistent. If at first, you don’t succeed, don’t give up. If you have resolved to make it work, keep trying. Persistence is the key to ultimate success.
If it doesn’t seem that you can fix the broken relationship on your own, then seek the help of a professional. You can contact our psychologist/ family therapist/ relationship counselor to learn about how to deal with relationship problems.
Mehwish Mursaleen (Ph.D., Clinical Psychology)
Clinical Psychologist & Online Psychotherapist
(Consult-a-psychologist.com & iCliniq.com)