From The Desk of a Psychologist

From The Desk of a Psychologist

The best way to scare people in our country is by telling them you are a psychologist. They fear that psychologists know everything from what they are thinking to actually what they had for dinner last night…
Getting admission in the faculty of Arts is enough to tell people that you don’t respect yourself. Further, making it to a field of psychology makes people empathize as if you chose it over suicide.
Getting admission in the faculty of Arts is enough to tell people that you don’t respect yourself. Further, making it to a field of psychology makes people empathize as if you chose it over suicide.
Have you ever thought what a student of psychology goes through? Let me tell you…
The initial classes are enough to declare that your ability to give the best advice to people doesn’t count. Teachers spend classes differentiating empathy from sympathy. The best thing about psychology is it deals with human behavior. So, when the exams arrive you can easily observe symptoms of panic attacks. You are worried about the pimples that appeared recently before exams? Well, let me clarify these are not pimples you better Google the term psoriasis.
Personality theories make all the more sense by applying them to your friends. You become a psychologist when one friend gives an evil plan and you turn it down telling them -sorry I am a super ego! Adler’s theory gives all the more reason for the pampered child to regress, first born child to dominate and the middle born children to compete. Comes Jung and every sane person studying psychology feels relieved and daydream about peak experiences. Your friend may covertly try to reinforce your positive behaviors, making learning theory meaningful. You learn over time, to tell people that they need to redefine their relationship as Horney had suggested.
You are a psychologist when studying, by Stander’s effect; you can easily imagine your own countrymen. Similarly, Mailgram’s experiment findings can be easily observed by giving authority to people for a moment. You learn that the reason our countrymen are divided is that we consider community, religion, ethnicity as our social group instead of a unified national identity that we have. You are a psychologist when you learn that nonverbal language has a greater impact on the audience than your words.
You are a psychologist when you learn that telling people that they are suffering from a mental illness is not a success. Rather, helping that person to overcome adversity with kindness is. When you learn to facilitate people to make the best decision for themselves. When you learn that your life is better than millions of people out there struggling to even get their basic physiological needs met. When you learn that psychiatrists, social workers, and other mental health professionals are an important part to help this society. When you learn to question each of your behaviors as behaviors do not occur without a reason.
When you learn this much you get an insight. However, to reach the last stage of Prochaska’s behavior of change, you need to keep up with the behavior. You need to stay motivated. Motivation, you know works better when you know why you do what you do. When you learn the “why” of your job you will eventually be able to self-actualize. That is using your potentials to the fullest, according to humanistic approach!

Written By:

Syeda Aelia Zaidi
M.Phil. Clinical Psychology

Editor:

Mehwish Mursaleen
Ph.D. Clinical Psychology

Child Neglect And Psychological Disturbances In Children

Child Neglect And Psychological Disturbances In Children

Child neglect comes in a form of child abuse, and it is actually a lack of meeting the child’s basic needs, which involves the parental/guardian’s failure to provide sufficient health care, supervision, nutrition, protection, their physical, emotional, social, and educational safety needs. In some child neglect cases, it is difficult to recognize, which makes it hard for the mental health care professionals to take early action in protecting the child.
The signs and symptoms of child neglect can be in terms of emotional, behavioral and physical in nature.

  • Emotional symptoms involve; isolation, fear, and an inability to trust which can transfer into lifelong psychological consequences including low self-esteem, depression, and relationship difficulties. Cognitive delay at some level, lower IQ scores, and language difficulties are also related. Individuals who experience parental neglect are more prone to develop antisocial personality traits as they grow up. Parental neglect is often associated with borderline personality disorder, attachment issues, inappropriate modeling of adult behavior, and aggressive temperament.
  •  Behavioral Consequences: Not all victims of child abuse and child neglect will experience behavioral consequences. However, behavioral problems appear most often in child neglect cases. Child abuse or neglect appears to make the experience difficulties during adolescence. Aggressive behaviors, rebelliousness, hyperactivity, and inattentiveness can be observed.
  • Physical health: an individual who experienced abuse or neglect during childhood is more likely to suffer from cardiovascular disease, lungs disease and liver malfunctioning, hypertension, diabetes, asthma, and obesity. Additionally, child maltreatment has been shown to increase adolescent obesity.
    Observing one of the signs in a child from the above domains doesn’t confirm that a child is being neglected, though ever notice multiple or relentless signs then it could indicate a serious problem.
    Together we can prevent child neglect by identifying circumstances which put parents or caregivers under stress and getting them the right help at the right time.

Written By:

Zohra Batool (M.Phil, Clinical Psychology)

Student Advisor at Institute of Professional Psychology, Bahria University

Edited By:

Mehwish Mursaleen (Ph.D. Clinical Psychology)

Sr. Psychologist (Consult-a-psychologist.com & iCliniq.com)

 

How to Identify Low Self-esteem

How to Identify Low Self-esteem

People think that those who appear over-confident are really getting the best of their lives. Just as the low self-esteem hurts personality, the over-confidence shakes the balance of an individual. We call this an inflated self-esteem. This is not the reality of people with over-confidence. Infect, they over-estimate themselves because there is an underline inferiority complex and actually the person has low self-esteem deep inside.
Similarly, a term is used in psychology literature i.e. Unstable self-esteem. This is a more threatening thing which underlies many personality disorders. You can understand the matter by simply assuming that anything other than a stable self-image is harmful to the psychological well-being of the person.
Here are some points which are characteristics of either unstable or low self-esteem. Reading this will help you to identify if you have a self-esteem issue.
People with low self-esteem:
1. Always try to impress others
2. Constantly compare self with others
3. Always think people are jealous of them or from their luxuries
4. Always need to be center of attention
5. Always want attention through attention seeking behaviors or statements e.g. “I am not feeling well”, “I am not being hungry”, “I am not eating proper meals” etc.
6. Always try to big head their related people’s designation, luxuries they have, and lifestyles
7. Always boost about themselves, show off, praise their self e.g., “I am so pretty”, “the outfit I’m wearing is so awesome” etc.
8. Easily impressed by the glamor or by the media fields
9. Always thinks they are right and others are wrong
10. The last but not the least, they don’t listen to others and can’t tolerate if someone criticizes them.
After you identify or suspect that you may possess low self-esteem, you can think to seek help from a professional psychologist to reshape your personality….

Written By:
Sana Mehboob (MS. Clinical Psychology)
Clinical Psychologist (Karachi psychiatric hospital)
Associate Clinical Psychologist (Institute of Professional Psychology-BUMDC & S. Abdur Razzak Medical Center)

Editor:
Mehwish Mursaleen (Ph.D., Clinical Psychology)
Clinical /Organizational Psychologist (Overtop Consultants),
Online Psychotherapist (iCliniq & Consult-a-psychologist.com)

How Low Self-Image Shatters Your Confidence to Let You Down In Life

How Low Self-Image Shatters Your Confidence to Let You Down In Life

Low Self-esteem vs. Low Self-image
“Confidence is a good thing but overconfidence always sinks the ship”

This quote has a very deep interpretation; being a psychologist my interpretation about this quote is related to low self-image and low self-esteem.
If you want to be a healthy individual, want to live a successful life, want to achieve your goals, you have to identify your weaknesses, faults in your personality& your complexes. Then work on your mental condition and reshape your personality.
Having complexes is not a bad thing complexes lead to low self-esteem but we can work on low self-esteem, boost low self-esteem through positive activities, and work on cognitions. The main difference of low self-esteem and low self-image is the person who has low self-esteem underestimates self but people with low self-image always overestimate themselves.
Low self-esteem can easily be boosted if you identify the lacking needs or the cause of your low self-esteem: for example, if someone is not very good in speaking English and can’t write well, always feels sad or low in his academic or professional life. He always thinks that I am not good I can’t speak, I can’t write, other people are very genius, they all speak well etc. In this case, he can work on his unreasonable thoughts/beliefs, can learn strategies to become an expert in English, and definitely, it will boost his self-esteem.
Building self-esteem is related to things which boost your esteem needs and channelize your low self-esteem towards personal growth. If it is fulfilled, the individual reaches to self-actualization stage.
People who have a low self-image means that they feel low in their own self. They are not satisfied with their personality they do not own their self and unconsciously they start to compare themselves with others.
It can be surprising for you that people who have low self-image may appear as over confident. These people hide their low self-esteem unconsciously which may lead to Narcissistic personality. Having low self-image can never be a positive thing because it will never lead towards personal growth and the person will never go to the self-actualization stage.
It is therefore very important to identify if you are low on confidence or overconfident because neither of the two things will help you to succeed in life.

Written By:
Sana Mehboob (MS. Clinical Psychology)
Clinical Psychologist (Karachi psychiatric hospital)
Associate Clinical Psychologist (S. Abdur Razzak Medical Center)
Editor:
Mehwish Mursaleen (Ph.D., Clinical Psychology)
Clinical /Organizational Psychologist (Overtop Consultants),
Online Psychotherapist (Consult-a-psychologist.com & iCliniq.com)

Stress Management: An Effective Way to Prevent Psychological Disturbance

Stress Management: An Effective Way to Prevent Psychological Disturbance

Stress is defined as any kind of strain, tension or load in your mind and body. The reasons behind this kind of stress are various but one thing is common, whatever thing is causing you to stress it must be psychological in nature. People generally report having tension headaches, body pains, ulcers, allergies, and many medical problems. When they go to a doctor for the checkup, their medical test reports show normal results. This is a big indication that stress is psychological although it may manifest in form of physiological/bodily symptoms.
Stress is a kind of psychological problem which needs management. When someone is going through stress for a longer time, generally it ends up in self-medication or physician prescribed medication. This is the biggest culprit in increasing problems. Researchers now show that medicines are not always an effective treatment for psychological problems. Therefore, evidence based psychotherapeutic methods are now practiced which seem to be very effective in dealing with stress related problems and a variety of other mental health issues.
Stress management is a form of counseling method and people go to a psychologist in order to learn stress management techniques. It is mandatory to deal with your stress before it turns into a psychological disorder. Psychologists teach various strategies of stress management during a detailed counseling session. Some simple tips are described here for your understanding.

Tips on Stress Management:

  1. Relaxation or deep breathing exercise which seems to improve your concentration, alertness, and freshness of mind.
  2. Take a good sleep because it is a natural way to heal daily wear & tear process of our brain & body.
  3. Eat healthy food low in calories which is also beneficial in maintaining weight, skin tone, and figure.
  4. Take some time out for yourself, out of your busy schedule. Do exercise, cycling, or physical activity which requires movement of your body and muscles.
  5. Go out into nature since it provides you with inner peace and serenity.
  6. Watch your favorite movie, drama, comedy, or anything which visually fascinate you. If nothing possible for the time being just sit in a relaxed position, close your eyes and image a favorite scene or your favorite place where you enjoy the most.
  7. Listen to calming music or your favorite voices. Consequently, you feel relaxed.
  8. Eat your favorite food or things you find tasty because it gives you ultimate enjoyment.
  9. In addition, smell the delicious food or use your favorite perfume or aromas.
  10. Play with natural stuff like clay, smooth surfaces, touch and feel your pets like cat, rabbits etc. or any of your favorite textures which provide you a calming effect.
  11. Do whatever makes you happy. It may range from a recitation, travel, keeping a hobby, exercise or a dance.
  12. Spend time with your loved ones, friends, or someone you can share your feelings with.
  13. Find out the reasons of stress. It may be due to workload, difficulty in managing time, or any negative experiences of life. Work out the reason for stress

Finally, if you find it difficult to reason out, just take help of the psychologist who will help you effectively work out the reasons for tension/stress and guide you to deal with your stress successfully.

Written By:
Mehwish Mursaleen
Ph.D. Clinical Psychology

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