Parental guidance is one of the crucial steps in treating children with ADHD (attention deficit hyperactive disorder) symptoms. Without parental training, a child cannot be treated fully. If you are taking a therapeutic treatment for your ADHD child from a clinical psychologist you would be aware of this fact. Because parents are the first institution, a child learns many things from them, which is apparent in their life ahead. If parents treat their child appropriately in initial childhood years there are reduced chances of developing attention deficits and hyperactivity. Even if the child has developed symptoms, appropriate parental handling can create a difference.
Therapists treating children with ADHD give particular instructions to their parents for how to deal with behavioral issues. However, some of the necessary steps parents can take are mentioned here.
Child’s daily functioning would improve if he/she is provided with proper home base training for instance, train the child regarding mannerism and following rules such as how to sit quietly in a classroom or while studying at home, listen attentively to what is being taught, how to behave with other children, refrain from picking up other’s possessions etc.
Develop your child’s friendship skills e.g., teach the child how he/she needs to behave if he/she wants to make a best friend. Involve the child in play activities or games which require sitting quietly and following rules such as, Ludo, Carom board etc. Tell the child clearly about the consequence when he/she doesn’t wait for the turn. Teach the child how to initiate and end conversations with people if he/she wants to get a friendly response.
Parents must help and encourage their child to practice and develop above-mentioned skills and do provide the child various opportunities so that he/she can acquire a better quality of life.
Encourage the child when he/she does well on tasks and give feedback immediately after completion of a task. It will develop your child’s abilities and help him/her understand the link between his/her own efforts and success.
Some of the helpful tactics parents can apply during their home base training are as follows:
- Create a to-do list of homework and household chores for the child so that he/she can follow it.
- Give your child simple and clear instructions. For example, if you want the child to do homework then Instead of saying “Finish your homework”, you can say what specific things you want him to do such as, “Finish your English lesson. Then write down in a paragraph what you have read. Finally, do your maths sums”.
- Organize your child’s clothes and school work so that they are always in the same place and easy to find.
• Get into a routine. Having a sense of order and routine helps inattentive children stay focused. Follow the same schedule every day. Such as wake-up, brush your teeth, eat breakfast, get dressed, put on your uniform etc.
- Paste the schedule in a central place, such as the main hallway of your house.
- While doing homework, turn off the TV, computer, radio, video games or other distractions.
- Give the child a reward for finishing his/her homework or other responsibilities. You might offer the child to take a trip to the zoo or may offer a chocolate etc.
Do utilize these strategies in your daily routine if you are dealing a child with ADHD. For expert opinion regarding specific behavioral problems of children and guidance on how to deal the specific issues, you can contact us directly.
Dr. Mehwish Mursaleen
Ph.D. Clinical Psychology
Child neglect comes in a form of child abuse, and it is actually a lack of meeting the child’s basic needs, which involves the parental/guardian’s failure to provide sufficient health care, supervision, nutrition, protection, their physical, emotional, social, and educational safety needs. In some child neglect cases, it is difficult to recognize, which makes it hard for the mental health care professionals to take early action in protecting the child.
The signs and symptoms of child neglect can be in terms of emotional, behavioral and physical in nature.
- Emotional symptoms involve; isolation, fear, and an inability to trust which can transfer into lifelong psychological consequences including low self-esteem, depression, and relationship difficulties. Cognitive delay at some level, lower IQ scores, and language difficulties are also related. Individuals who experience parental neglect are more prone to develop antisocial personality traits as they grow up. Parental neglect is often associated with borderline personality disorder, attachment issues, inappropriate modeling of adult behavior, and aggressive temperament.
- Behavioral Consequences: Not all victims of child abuse and child neglect will experience behavioral consequences. However, behavioral problems appear most often in child neglect cases. Child abuse or neglect appears to make the experience difficulties during adolescence. Aggressive behaviors, rebelliousness, hyperactivity, and inattentiveness can be observed.
- Physical health: an individual who experienced abuse or neglect during childhood is more likely to suffer from cardiovascular disease, lungs disease and liver malfunctioning, hypertension, diabetes, asthma, and obesity. Additionally, child maltreatment has been shown to increase adolescent obesity.
Observing one of the signs in a child from the above domains doesn’t confirm that a child is being neglected, though ever notice multiple or relentless signs then it could indicate a serious problem.
Together we can prevent child neglect by identifying circumstances which put parents or caregivers under stress and getting them the right help at the right time.
Zohra Batool (M.Phil, Clinical Psychology)
Student Advisor at Institute of Professional Psychology, Bahria University
Mehwish Mursaleen (Ph.D. Clinical Psychology)
Sr. Psychologist (Consult-a-psychologist.com & iCliniq.com)
Healthy Relationship Tips: Healthy relationships are the part of a successful life. When your relationships are at a stake, you can’t focus effectively on other areas of your life such as studies, career, work, and your own personality. Therefore, healthy relationships are considered associated with positive adjustment and psychological well-being.
When your relationship is suffering, you always have a choice i.e., put it out of its misery or nurse it back to health. If the love that you share is worth saving, act quickly to reverse and repair the damage that’s already been done to your relationship. Here are some areas to notice when you try to save a broken relationship.
Seek first to understand, then be understood. When you put yourself in shoes of others, you are better able to analyze the situation rationally and understand other’s feelings.
Express yourself. There is no harm in expressing your feelings either positive or negative. But when you express negative feelings, what matters is: how you express it. If you try to blame another person, show aggression and use harsh tone then definitely, the next person is not going to listen to you and all your energy and efforts will go in vein. So be careful about your words, tone of voice, and the situation when you express your negative feelings. However, when you express your positive feelings, try to harmonize your body language. Your words and body language should give a similar message. For instance, you are encouraging the person, but your way of saying it is sarcastic. Off course, this will not give a positive message, instead, the person in front of you will get offended by your act. So, express yourself but tactfully.
Healthy adjustment. When you adjust a broken relationship, it is not a compromise, but it is a healthy option which is only chosen by a healthy mind. If you consider your mind a strong and healthy one, always chose to adjust with relationship problems at first.
Soften your heart. You always like people who are soft-hearted. So why not you choose to be the liked one by your loved ones?
Assume the best. Every relationship goes through thick and thins. Problems are the part of every relationship but you need to understand that problems are temporary and there is a solution to every problem. Once you solve the current issues, your relationship will be just like you wished it to be.
Embrace change. Always welcome change in your relationship. Some people feel so fixed within a relationship that even a minor change is so frustrating for them. If you are one of those, you need to understand that change is the part of life stages. Everyone changes with age and according to the life situation. So if this is the normal process so you can feel normal about it.
Be persistent. If at first, you don’t succeed, don’t give up. If you have resolved to make it work, keep trying. Persistence is the key to ultimate success.
If it doesn’t seem that you can fix the broken relationship on your own, then seek the help of a professional. You can contact our psychologist/ family therapist/ relationship counselor to learn about how to deal with relationship problems.
Mehwish Mursaleen (Ph.D., Clinical Psychology)
Clinical Psychologist & Online Psychotherapist
(Consult-a-psychologist.com & iCliniq.com)